I'll just say it: nudes are awesome. Swapping nude photos is not only a great way to create sexual anticipation, but it can make your tedious workday a lot more exciting (as long as your screen is not visible to your coworkers). There is nothing like a hot photo of someone you are in love with to help you fill out those TPS reports.
But initiating the exchange of nudes can seem daunting. For starters, how do you ask for nudes without appearing like a creep? “HI YOU'RE HOT, PLEASE SEND NAKED PHOTO” is probably one of the least appealing things a partner will ever hear. You must be aware of Sending in progress naked too. As with any sexual activity, consent is a must - and depending on how your partner receives it, an unsolicited dick pic might even be illegal.
We spoke to four sex experts to explain how to request and send nudes. Here's who you'll hear from:
- Daniel Saynt, founder of The New Society for Wellness (NSFW), a club for HIV-positive members that runs BDSM-focused sex education workshops
- Cory B, kink coach and sex educator
- Sofiya Alexandra, actress and co-host of Unknown private parties, a sexualities podcast exploring conversations about sex, dating and gender
- Courtney Kocak, actress and co-host of Unknown private parties, a sexualities podcast exploring conversations about sex, dating and gender
How do you know it's a good time to send a nude?
Daniel: You should always ask permission before sending nudes. You can ask by saying something like, "Can I send you something nasty?" Make sure the conversation is already going this way. If they're texting questions to get to know you, it's probably not the best time to ask them.
Cory: Usually the best time to send a nude is when you are already having a steamy text message conversation. But the alone The time when you can send a nude is when you have received explicit consent to do so.
Courtney: Consent is the key to sending nudes. Nobody wants a dick shot out of left field, and sadly, that's where most of them come from. Start with words. Sexting can be so hot. Tell your partner… what you want to do to him later. Be explicit and mean if that's what you care about - and if they reciprocate and things speed up, it is a good time to send a nude.
How do you know it's a good time to ask for nudes?
Cory: The best time to send or request a nude is when there is already a sexting session in progress. While some people like to send spontaneous nudes to their partner (s) during working hours, this is usually reserved for people who have ongoing relationships where they have pre-negotiated limits regarding sexting and sending. of nudes.
Sofia: I think the sexting middle is a good time, but only if both people have been sexting, not just a very horny party having a monologue.
Courtney: Yeah, read the room. I know it can be difficult in our electronic world, but use all the context clues available. Are they responding to your sext with equally sexual content? Awesome! Now you can tell them you'd like to see a little something.
Okay, but what do you say specifically when you ask for nudes?
Daniel: You can ask, "Can I see more of you?" »[Add] a little devil emoji at the end to suggest that you hope to see a little more than what Tinder allows on the profiles. It's a shy way to ask without being too direct.
You should also consider offering an exchange for an exchange. You can say, "Do you want to swap sexy photos?" From there you can share sexy, but not fully nude photos. Once a few of these photos have been swapped back and forth, ask, "Do you want to share X rated photos?" You can throw a mischievous smile emoji afterwards to make it more playful!
Sofia: I think a fun way to swap nudes from sexting is to kind of slowly raise the stakes. For example, start with a kick or bicep kick, and wait for her to return something. You can continue until you are really explicit. Plus, if it pulls back and doesn't match your pic for photo, you have a good idea of when to stop.
Courtney: An ex-boyfriend once sent me some super sexy Tumblr gifs and that was the hottest thing ever. It really lubricated me for a more personal photo exchange.
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