How to have vaginal sex

You may be thinking about having sex for the first time and you don't know where to start. Or maybe you want more information on how to make it fun and safe?

Whatever your situation, here are the answers to some common questions about vaginal sex.

What is vaginal sex?

During vaginal sex (also known as penetrating vaginal sex, sex, and simply sex), the penis enters the vagina.

If you watch movies or porn, you can get a very unrealistic idea of ​​what sex is like. There is no one right way to have vaginal sex. It can be a very sweet and intimate experience or a passionate and adventurous experience and many other things in between. You can try to have sex however you and your partner want.

How do you have vaginal sex?

What are foreplay?

Sometimes called intense fondling, foreplay helps to sexually arouse (or turn on) both people and prepare them for vaginal sex. It can involve kissing, cuddling, fondling, rubbing, touching, or oral sex. Foreplay should be enjoyable for both partners. Some people choose to stick with foreplay and not have penetrative sex.

If you are both ready to have vaginal sex, the more aroused you both are, the easier it will be for the penis to enter the vagina. You will know you are aroused when the vagina starts to get wet and the penis becomes erect, bigger and harder.

We spent hours on foreplay, kissing, fingering and lots of oral as it was our first two times. When we decided to have sex, we used a condom and a lot of lube and it was very soft, he kept asking me if he was hurting me and how I was feeling. It hurt a bit, but not as much as I expected.

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When should I put on a condom?

Once you are both excited and ready to have sex, you can put on an external (male) condom. It can be done by either of you. You can only put a condom on an erect penis, and you must do this before the penis touches or enters the vagina.

If you are using an internal (female) condom, it can be inserted up to eight hours before sex.

How to get the penis into the vagina?

When you're ready, either of you can use your hand to gently guide the penis into the vagina. Take your time and don't worry if it takes a few strokes to get it in properly, especially when you're still getting used to each other's body.

Once the penis is inside, you can move your body so that the penis enters the vagina and then partially withdraws. Do what comes naturally and feels good - take it slow, be gentle, and make sure you're both comfortable.

Remember, just because you started something doesn't mean you should continue. You or your partner can take a break or stop at any time if you are uncomfortable with what you are doing.

Will I have an orgasm?

When you are very aroused tension builds up in your body, then the sexual pressure is released in a sudden surge of pleasure called orgasm, coming or coming. For women, the most sensitive part of their body is the clitoris, a small lump just above the opening of the vagina. It is full of nerve endings and very sensitive to touch. Many women need their clitoris to be stimulated to have an orgasm. You can try out different positions for vaginal sex that allow you to move your body in a way that rubs the clitoris. Some people choose for themselves or their partner to touch the clitoris during penetrative sex to stimulate it.

For most men, the action involved in pushing the penis into the vagina stimulates the nerve endings in the penis and brings them to orgasm.

Don't worry if you don't have an orgasm right away, or even at all. It takes time to find out what works for you and for your partner. Both men and women can enjoy vaginal sex even if it doesn't make them cum.

What is the best position for vaginal sex?

Different people like different things, and there are many options available. A common position is the “missionary position”, which involves the woman lying down, with the man lying or sitting on top. Alternatively, the woman can be on top, you can both lie on your side, or you can have vaginal sex from behind (where the woman's back is turned towards the man).

If you are having sex for the first time, choose a position that you both feel comfortable in. As you get to know each other's bodies better, you can experiment with different positions and figure out what you both like.

You may also want to experiment with sex toys or have anal sex ou oral sex. If you are switching from anal sex to vaginal sex, you should put on a new condom to make sure you do not infect the vagina with bacteria. After awhile, you might find certain movements, positions, and ways of touching that lead to an orgasm or both. Don't worry too much if this doesn't happen right away or even at all. It takes time to find out what works for you sexually - and for your partner - and sex can be pleasurable whether you cum or not.

After sex

If you are using a external condom (male), you must hold the condom when the penis is pulled out to make sure it does not come off. Do not wait too long to withdraw, the penis should still be erect to prevent the condom from slipping or sperm leaking out.

Sexual Myths and Sexual Facts

If a woman is a virgin, will she always bleed the first time she has sex?

NO. Some women bleed the first time they have sex and some don't. Both are normal. The hymen is a thin piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagina. If it hasn't broken before, it normally breaks the first time a woman has vaginal sex, but other things can cause it to break, including strenuous exercise and using tampons. . If you continue to bleed every time you have sex, it's a good idea to talk to a healthcare professional to make sure there is nothing to worry about.

Can I get pregnant the first time I have sex?

YES. It could be your first time, you could have your period, you could be in the bath or standing - no matter how you do it, if you have unprotected sex you could get pregnant.

Can a virgin transmit STIs?

YES. Even though a person has not had penetrative sex, they may have had oral sex or may have contracted an STI from skin-to-skin contact.

If I wash myself after sex, can I clean the semen?

NO. Peeing or trying to clean the inside of your vagina will not remove all the semen or prevent you from getting pregnant.

Can my partner withdraw his penis before he cums to make sure I don't get pregnant?

NOT. The “pull out” or “pull out” method will not always stop the pregnancy. This is because semen (semen) can get into the vagina before ejaculation.

Will it still hurt?

NO. It may take a while to get used to how sex feels. Some women find it a little uncomfortable or painful at first, but the pain shouldn't be severe. If you find it painful, stop. Taking things slowly, making sure you're both fully aroused, and using a water-based lubricant can help make penetration more comfortable and pleasurable. Do not use oil-based lubricants like baby oil or petroleum jelly, as they can break the condom. If you continue to have pain during sex, it could be a sign that you have an illness or infection, so it is worth going to a health clinic to get checked.

What are the risks of pregnancy, STIs and HIV from vaginal sex?

Having vaginal sex without using a condom exposes you and your partner to unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV.

Although there are many types of contraception to prevent pregnancy, only condoms will also protect you and your partner against sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and HIV. Remember, not all STIs have obvious symptoms, so either of you may have an STI and not know it.

If either of you has HIV, is taking medication, and has an undetectable viral load, it will not be possible to pass HIV on during sex. If your partner has HIV but you don't, you may want to consider taking pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) to prevent HIV infection, but be aware that it only protects against HIV and not against HIV. other STIs.

The responsibility for protecting yourself against pregnancy and STIs should be shared between you two. It's a good idea to talk about protection before you start having sex. Being safe should help you feel more relaxed and make sex more enjoyable. If you find it too difficult or embarrassing to talk about safe sex, it could be a sign that you are not yet ready to start having sex. This is good - remember that there are many ways to enjoy being together and exploring your sexual feelings until the time is right.

If you've had unprotected sex, be sure to seek medical advice as soon as possible. You will be able to access emergency contraception to prevent unwanted pregnancy, and if you are concerned that you may have been exposed to HIV, you can take post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP) to prevent HIV infection. You can also be tested for other STIs.

If you are having sex, it is a good idea to get tested regularly for HIV and other STIs. It will help you and any partner you have to stay healthy.

Should I have vaginal sex?

Deciding to have sex is a very personal thing. You might think that everyone around you is having sex, but that just isn't true. Some don't like it, others choose not to, and some decide to wait. It's important that both people are excited about having sex and that no one feels pressured into doing something they don't want to do. Talk to your partner and keep communicating to make sure you get their consent. If you and your partner are enthusiastic and relaxed, sex can be a very enjoyable experience for both of you.

The main things to consider are whether this is right for you and whether you and your partner are both confident about it. Our article "Am I ready for sex?" Will help you think about it. You may also find it helpful to read some of the personal stories people have shared with us about sex, including having sex for the first time.

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