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Dating a French guy Tips you need to know BEFORE you kiss



Hi Diane!
First of all, thanks for the great advice.
I don't know anything about the French or a lot of French culture. Here is a version of my story (I will try to make it short).

I went to Paris for a convention for 7 days, about 3 weeks ago. On my second night a friend of mine with her boyfriend took me to a brazilian bar to watch football, I spotted a guy in a suit, just because he was in a suit, everyone was wearing shirts ... at the end of the match he approached me and asked me if I was Brazilian, because he saw me cheering, jumping and going crazy for the team (I'm not, but I love Brazil). We engaged in a little chat, my friend was all PDA with her boyfriend so she didn't even notice that I was gone, haha… and after a while my friend came over and took me away away from the conversation as we were about to miss our bus home, so I barely had time to say goodbye to him, luckily he gave us his business card. Although I thought it was rude, I continued with my life, until the next night, opening my purse I found his card, so I decided to call him, sort of excuse to have left abruptly… the point is we settle for a drink the next night.
(I've been single for 10 months now, and haven't had a date since, nothing, my last relationship went really badly, with a narcissist sociopath, so I took the time to heal and to find me).

Anyway, we met, had a riverside sandwich at Notre Dame, then headed to 3 different bars, had a lot of laughs and found a lot of common threads, Regarding the payment, I made it very clear from the start, I pay my half as well. Time flies when you're having fun, right? and my friend is going to the suburbs, so I was about to miss my bus too, and walking alone, in a town I don't know, I could have done it, but I decided to tease him while we were taking the metro… He said, he already knew he was going to take me home, so he did… after he called a taxi, he lives near the Eiffel Tower, in one of those neighborhoods residential properties in Paris, really chic.
I woke him up to the door, and there was an awkward silence before the kiss, so he did, he kissed me, in a very romantic-slow-passionate way, like I did. had never been kissed before. We said good evening to each other and he said he would call me as soon as he finished working the next day, so that we could go out… he did, and from that day on, it was 'was like we were together, going to different bars, jazz concert etc on our last night he invited me to dinner where he of course said I'm French so let me pay , a rose he cut in his grandmother's garden and a fantastic dinner in a fancy restaurant.
He comes from a wealthy family, but a very down to earth guy, funny, respectful and I felt really good and protected with him, I had never felt like this before, nor found a guy who made me live the present, forget the past and don't worry much about the future… I didn't realize how much he seduced me until I got home.
In Paris, he told me that he really loved me and that he would love to see me again.
When I got home I had a breakdown, cried and missed him so much, so I decided to call him, and he calmed me down, brought my senses back, and we decided, because the summer plans have already been made and there is work too ... that it is not the time to go to the country of one or the other just because of the other . In his words: we must leave that to fate, but fate helped.
He has already spoken to his boss, and has verified that he has clients where I live (Sweden) so that he can come here, but only next year. As for me, I found a reason to go to Paris, a few weeks, a conference (he doesn't know yet)

He said, go to my home country and stuff, it's too much, too soon, a commitment, (I'm from Peru, and I'm going for 5 weeks in August) and I felt / felt the same thing, asking her not to go out with him? not see anyone else?
We talked almost every day, texting etc. He watched me when he knew I was going to get angry (football, Brazil beaten by Germany) and little signals he was thinking of me.
If all goes well, I could go to Paris in November, I can't wait to see it, but I'm also scared… that was what you described, after the 1st kiss it was like a relationship.
If I was there I wouldn't let him go, I really like him, with his imperfections, which I also noticed, he's not particularly cute, and money isn't a big deal , but his character is just amazing.

In any other culture i will go with the flow he seems like an honest guy which i need after my horrible last relationship.
I wanted your point of view, helped fate, right? Go in November, see it and go from there. if it goes well, if not, we move on?
I don't like the long distance part because I have heard that the French are used to cheating, but then again the rumors, how true is that? Shouldn't it be according to individuals? And I wonder if he maybe used to doing that, someone told me, the French fall in love and fall very easily ...
Thank you!

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