In my early XNUMXs, falling in love with someone who lived in another city wasn't that easy. You can write deeply felt declarations of love via email, maybe also SMS, and of course whisper them into the receiver. But what if you were for each other? What if you were as horny as a whole co-op of monkeys? Then phone sex was often the only option. Not my cup of tea because I'm not the most communicative guy in real life. But if I found someone who loved to chat and moaned their dirtiest fantasies in my ear, I was there. Someone ready to imagine I was lying on my Ikea bed, dressed only in a pink thong and roller skates, listening to Aerosmith, even though they knew I was jogging on my couch and watching Juvenile Short. Unfortunately, these guys were rare.
Today it is so much easier. Phone sex is like that in 2004, plus we have Tinder. After just a few messages, it's usually clear which direction the fun of the date needs to go - Friend Zone, Heart Area or South. If the feelings go south, sex is often faster than you can say "Hey, what are you looking for on Tinder?"
Sext?
Sexting describes an activating dialog of picture and text messages and is a combination of the words "sex" and "text". Who would have thought that.
Let's talk about the photos first. The first rule is: no photos of the penis unless expressly requested by the sexting partner. Because as I told you in a previous post: very few women like to receive unsolicited cock pics (here I explain what I really think about cock pics). Too clunky, too bland - sorry not sorry. Stay horny: you in bed, shirtless, a selfie showing your face: hot! Women love faces. Most importantly, it's a foundation you can build on. You want to make the lady curious and not to lovelessly throw the whole piece at her feet at once. Whether you're showing off your pecs or your defined butt, your sexting photos should never be posed and intentionally sexy. So, no exaggerated alluring looks, no lasciviously drawn bottom lip. Instead, your photos may indicate that they were taken quite spontaneously, casually - because you feel like meeting the woman you're so busy messing around about small messes with.
Bonus tip 1: I am pragmatic and have little time. That's why I save my best sex shots - for the bad times. Sending such “used” photos is not cool as it is neither creative nor individual. But between us: if you don't chat, no one will know about your little thing.
Speaking of gossip: what do you write when you say sixth? Depends on the level of creativity, heat and the situation. And how you and the lady feel about each other. If you only paired up on Tinder two days ago, I recommend holding back early. A good start is, "What are you doing right now?" If she responds flirty, you too can take it to the next level. And before you know it, you are in the middle of the most beautiful sexting battle. Give instructions (“Touch yourself”), describe what you have in mind (“If you were here, I would take you first… and then, but really…”), let the tiger out.
Bonus Tip 2: If she likes to be a bit directed or is generally on challenges, give her tasks: "Take a picture of yourself in your pink thong and with roller skates on your feet on your Ikea bed!" And then you send me your Aerosmith Spotify playlist! "
It would have ruined my tour at the time, but it's still hot.
Mimi Erhardt is a sex columnist for GQ and GQ.de. You can read more about the author here.
