You might be surprised to know that “cuckold porn” was the second most searched porn term after “youth”, according to the authors of the book “A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the Internet Tells Us About Sex”. While sharing a woman can be a common fantasy, in reality it is a sexual scenario that is a step too far for most men.
Not for the so-called deer, however. These guys start watching their wife or girlfriend having sex with other guys. The deer joins in or looks like a voyeur. The Vixen, or as they're called in some circles, Hotwife, has sex with the encouragement of her husband or her boyfriend with the bull (that's the guy doing her a favor).
Another scenario is that the vixen has sex with a bull outside of the couple's shared abode, then comes home and tells all the details in a shot-by-shot description to activate the deer.
So, are we talking about a cuckold?
No. However, you might be confused into thinking that the definition of a cuckold is a man who enjoys having his wife pleasured by another man. You may have heard of the term "cuck" recently. In political circles, it's a beard that the alt-right throws at men on the left as in “You snowflake cuck”, before the left clicks and calls them “Cuckservatives”.
These slurs allude to the fact that in some cuckold scenarios there is an element of ritualized humiliation, submission, jealousy or denial that comes into play. The bull, wife or both dominate the encounter and the cuckold shoots. her sexual thrill of masochistic shame and humiliation.
Their little secret
Meet Stag & Vixen Susie *, 36, and Shane *, 38, who go under the Twitter handle @Ourlittlesecret. So called because besides indulging in extra-circular activities in the bedroom, this is a long-term, straight married couple with children and regular jobs, including friends have no idea what they are doing. Although their 72 Twitter followers do.
For Susie and Shane, the term Stag & Vixen worked better than cuckold. “It's a description that suits us perfectly because there is no humiliation or denial,” Shane explains. “I prefer to be a voyeur, but every now and then I'll join in. Watching my wife with another man is a great excitement for me. It's like foreplay. Even though I love to watch, I can't wait for the bull to leave so I can delight Susie myself.
In Stag & Vixen circles, this is called “recovery” and the goal of the couple is up to everyone.
It was Shane's long-standing fantasy for Susie to have sex with another man. “We often played it in a fantastic situation,” says Susie. “However, I was too insecure about my body to even think of having sex with someone else. Then we started the Twitter account and started posting nude photos (Susie never shows her face, so there is anonymity). I enjoyed the exhibitionism and the compliments. I spoke to a guy who lived in our town and he asked me for coffee. Shane totally agreed.
After the date, the bull came home with Susie and they had sex. “Sex with another man was appealing because Shane and I have been together since I was 18,” she says. "I felt like a teenage girl going out again."
However, Susie was initially embarrassed by Shane. “At first I had a hard time having sex in front of Shane,” she says. "He knows my comfort level, so now he's leaving us to him, until I step into it." Once warmed up he will walk into the room and I feel good.
“Once I walked over them and she was at the top; this is your bed, your wife and another man. It's crazy, but it's a big excitement, ”Shane says. “However, it's not like in the movies, with the guy running the scene, I just sit there quietly.”
"Every once in a while, I'll watch, smile and laugh Shane's way," adds Susie. "Or Shane will come and give me long, hot and horny kisses."
Interestingly, many deer have no interest in sexual encounters with other women. “I have a pass to sleep with other women, but that was not the original intention. It was always a matter of pleasure for Susie and the pleasure I felt in her.
However, the couple say there are rules in place. “The rules are that Shane has to know everything and we can't have any secrets,” says Susie. "If I'm going out alone, he must hear all the details."
Shane says there was definitely a learning curve when the couple started living the Stag & Vixen lifestyle. “Susie would get lost in the moment on dates and would forget to keep in touch,” Shane said. “She once had sex in the car before coming home, which was a painful subject because I wanted to be there when she had sex.
The obvious question that had been asked was whether Susie ever felt coerced in any way. “No, I wouldn't have done it if I hadn't wanted to,” she says. “I like being able to have fun with other men. However, with sex, anyone other than Shane is purely sexual. Our relationship is my main goal. "
The couple say they are having more sex together now. “Susie tends to be more horny before, during, and after, if she's on a date. It brought us closer together, ”Shane says.
* Names have been changed to protect anonymity