Spanking is in fashion. Thanks to the BDSM bestseller "50 Shades of Grey", many people have long known that a pat on the butt can be very pleasant and exciting - provided you know the right techniques and rules. In this article you will learn everything you need to know about sexy spanking.
What is spanking?
Spanking is a sexual practice in which one person slaps the other person's buttocks with the palm of their hand or with an object such as a whip. The intensity of the blows can vary and be previously agreed by both partners. Some people find the pain they feel sexually arousing.
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Spanking roleplay in BDSM
Spanking can also be used in BDSM sessions, especially in dominance submission games.
For couples who have a masochistic disposition, special percussion instruments such as whips and leather paddles may be of interest, which greatly increase the pain stimulus. Experienced BDSMers often report states of intoxication, called "highs", that they experience during spanking sessions.
Why are butt slaps so exciting?
Even for many people who have little to do with BDSM, a gentle slapping on the buttocks is part of passionate sex. And for good reason: gentle pats on the buttocks not only stimulate blood circulation, but also promote the release of sex hormones such as oxytocin.
However, some may be skeptical and wonder if spanking is humiliating. The clear answer is: no. Of course, spanking has nothing to do with a violent "butt spanking", but only takes place with mutual consent. In BDSM relationships, this preference has an erotic component and the intended humiliation is desired by the submissive party.
Breakdown of Roles: Spankers and Spankees
If you want to try spanking for the first time, you should think about the role distribution in advance. The following applies here: the active part (the spanking, up) takes the dominant position and enjoys spanking the submissive partner (spanking, down, under). He (ideally) finds the pain inflicted on him pleasurable and likes to let go of control completely.
By the way: The active role in spanking is not automatically assumed by men. It is often women who appear dominant during spanking and, as femdom, properly spank their partner's buttocks.
Instructions: 6 Important Spanking Tips For Beginners
If you've never had any experience with spanking during sex, there are a few things you should consider the first time around. The most important spanking tips at a glance:
1) Rhythmic beats
Spanking isn't just a smack on the head, it's a rhythmic, emotional test of physical limits. How far can the summit go? What percussion instruments produce the desired effect? Pace and tact are often more important than brute force.
2) Aiming can be learned
If you want to try new percussion instruments while spanking, you should test them thoroughly beforehand, because: it's not just about the right handling, but also about the right distance from the sub and the respective impact hardness. And these can vary greatly from instrument to instrument.
3) Hard or soft blows? It's all in the mix
Anyone collecting their first spanking experiences should always start slowly and carefully. It is best to avoid hard hits and only increase the intensity slowly. Tender touches and gentle caresses can also be part of a long-lasting spanking session and used to temporarily relax the submissive.
4) Safety first
As with any sexual variety, the principle of "SSC" also applies to spanking. This stands for “safe” (safe), “sound” (reasonable) and “consensual” (mutual) – and means for couples: set a safe word with which the session can be immediately terminated in an emergency.
5) Pay attention to body language
With spanking, the bottom relinquishes control and places itself in the responsible hands of a top. With a little experience, the active spanker can tell from their opponent's body language what they like and how far they can go.
6) Warming up is mandatory
Spanking is like a sport – and that means: No spanking without warming up! In a warm-up phase, the buttocks should be “warmed up” with light strokes or paddles. Subsequently, other "harder" toys such as whips or whips can also be used.
Do not touch ! There are those taboo areas in spanking
Basically, all sensitive organs and bones that are not protected from blows by a layer of fat or muscle should not be used when spanking:
- spine
- Neck
- Koepf
- kidneys / kidneys
- articulations
There is a huge risk of injury here, which none of the people involved would want to take.
Oh yeah yeah! These are the pleasure zones during spanking
In contrast, the following areas and body areas are easy to play. They are considered particularly erogenous:
- After
- Thigh
- calves
- Move
- hands and feet
Depending on personal preferences, shots are welcome here and can provide special moments of pleasure.
The Best Spanking Positions
Below we feature four different spanking positions that are particularly good for spanking buttocks.
Above the knee (OTK)
“Above the knee” is a commonly used position that you may be familiar with from many XXX movies. Here, the submissive part rests on the knee of the spanker to be punished. He can lie on his stomach or on his back, depending on his personal preference or his feeling of shame.
In this position, the bare bottom is particularly accessible, the top has full control over the intensity and angle of the punches.
In the stands
Spanking is also possible while standing. The bottom leans against a wall or stands free in the room, its stock is easily accessible for the top for different striking angles.
greyhound
The doggy style is very comfortable especially for the submissive. While kneeling on all fours, his posterior faces the spanker. This position is also good for anal stimulation and can be combined with various sex toys such as butt plugs or strap-ons.
chandelier
The candlestick position is more of an advanced spanking position, in which the bottom lies on his back and stretches his legs over his head to create a sort of "candlestick pose." In this position, the bottom bottom is fully playable from the top.
But beware: it is advised that this position is only performed by experienced spankers as there is some risk of injury, especially if the submissive loses their balance during the spanking.
Whips, paddles, riding crops: These toys are suitable for spanking
Choosing the right spanking toy often comes down to personal preference and individual pain thresholds, but some tools are universally considered effective and safe. Basically:
- paddles et belt are the first choice for many spanking beginners and offer a stronger effect than the palm. However, they can also cause injury if used too hard.
- Rattan stick, Bamboo stick ou cannes offer a particularly precise effect and are also appreciated by experienced spankers.
- For a stronger pain stimulus whips ou whips be used, but care must be taken here as well, as these toys can easily lead to injury.
- For technology lovers: there is Spanking- et Whipping machineswho can automate punches and perform them at different intensities.
Either way, it's important for spankers to know that all toys can evoke various pain stimuli on the submissive. The submissive partner must therefore always have a say in the use of the percussion instrument.
Take the first steps in spanking
"Do you want me to spank you?" – What looks like a threat to many people triggers real leaps of joy among spanking lovers. As a beginner, you can connect to the scene in different ways.
On the one hand, there are various BDSM chats on the Internet, where spanking rooms have long been an integral part. There is also Dating sites for spanking contacts. Here, as well as in special spanking forums, you can get in touch with like-minded people and even organize real spanking sessions.
In some cities, dominatrix and BDSM studios also offer introductory classes for spanking beginners. Here, under the guidance of an expert, initial experience can be gained and various percussion instruments can be tried out in peace.
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